cHenG&LieM’s fa|rytaLe

A rather depressing title isn’t it? Let me just start with what led me to that statement.

I think it happened a few years back, when I was at a nightclub, and I opened the toilet door for a few Aussie ladies. They smiled and commented about how nice i was to do that. I grinned back and told them, of course i was nice! But then, they added, ‘It’s good that you are nice, but remember, in life, being a bitch will take u further’. At that time, i never gave much thought to that comment… in fact, I thought they were ridiculous. I mean, I’m sure most of us, since young, were taught to be polite to people, respect elders, do good deeds and so forth. Our values are constantly hammered into us to ensure that we are brought up the right way, with doing the right thing. But today, what IS the ‘right’ thing?? Is the right thing STILL the ‘right’ thing?

I don’t mean to say that I wanna be a bitch so that I can go further in life and achieve more. But have you ever thought, what if you were nice to every single person, and you just get pushed over and taken advantage of, that in the end, you are the one left out in the rat race? Probably because I was brought up in a little city, where everyone was very helpful and decent to each other, well, most of them.. hehehe but most of the people that I was brought up with were very nice people, especially my childhood friends. Even now, I still want to think that the world is still filled with much love. But reality is here to bite me in the ASS! hehehe As they say, its a dog eat dog world. Friends may not really be friends, where enemies may be standing right next to you holding your hands. Not that I’m sulking or anything, but I’m finally realizing. It’s a whole new strategy out there.

But accepting is a hard step, changing the mentally norm that you were taught is even harder. Right now, I’m thinking, when someone do you wrong, should you react in kind? But if you do, won’t you be lowering yourself to their standards to spite them? Then what difference are you with them? Then what right do you have to complain and say they were wrong? That’s the thing I’m most curious about. Should we neglect the values that we hold so dearly just to get back at them, or get an advantage? Seriously speaking, I don’t think I can. I agree that being a bitch will probably get you further, but if it involves betraying your conscience, going against your values or any of the sort, I don’t think that getting that extra mile is worth it. Will we be able to sleep at night knowing that we have caused someone such grief?

My mum use to tell me, whether or not people treat you bad, as long as you don’t do anybody any harm, thats all that matters. Even those beggers on the streets, alot of people say that don’t give them any money cause they are probably just pretending…..but what if they are not? what if they are really handicapped or poor? Don’t you rather just leave it to chance..if they are really pretending, then BUGGER! But if not, you are really helping someone in need. Why worry whether they are pretending or not?

But of course, if being a bit of a bitch can prevent people from taking advantage of you and protect yourself, i reckon, by all means, sign up for the next bitch course!

P.S. I’m not saying that I’m not a bitch, probably some people think I am, but I would like to think that i TRY not to be one..and do what I feel is right. =)

*Groan* I can’t sleep… =( Hate it!!!!! even my lil pug is snoring happily next to me..bleh..unfair.. My sleepless state led me to think about my favourite food….LAMB ON SPIT!!! i bet if Lynsday’s reading this, she will b saying….OMFG! ahhaha She, like many others, can’t understand my  obsession with the fatty lookin lamb, hanging so deliciously on the spit, spinning merrily away. Honestly, i don know why myself…could it be the rosemary sprinkles and exotic marinades on its delectable skin..or issit the pink juicy red meat that is oh so tender when your teeth sets in and finally just melts on the tongue? Hrmm hard to explain..

Mebbe its my obsession with Lyndsay, since she does look a bit like the lamb…ahhaha j/k =) My phuong will help me marinade you..ahahaha

i think maybe its those Asterix & Obelix comics i used to read when i was young, where they always have a roast boar on the spit. I always wished that i could just grab a whole boar and bite away =)

So Ive decided, for me and Liem’s joint bday this year, I will have 2 lambs!!!! one for our friends, and ONE FOR ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hauhauhauhuahuhauu I’m gonna go on a date with my pretty lamb… u’ll be seeing me sitting in front of the spit, ripping meat off the poor thing..perhaps i might use fork and knife, so I’ll seem more ladylike =)

HAHAHAHAHA j/k !!! Just crazy rantings from a sleep deprived lil woman……perhaps i will dream of my lamb….